Re: Values in community, was sexuality | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: ken (gebserspeakeasy.net) | |
Date: Thu, 16 Mar 2006 07:49:45 -0800 (PST) |
Sharon Villines wrote: >> as people exercising a difference in values? At what point do we >> tolerate bias and misunderstanding in our communities in the name of a >> diference in values, and at what point do we overtly ask people to >> accept the diversity of our communities, and help them learn to do so? >> I'm just wondering where this line is for folks. > > I think this is a really interesting question. One of the places where > it becomes obvious is with children. Adults learn to hide their biases > and to work around them but when they then have children who are not > allowed to do things other children do or play in the houses of other > children because of who their parents are or because a television might > be on, it becomes much more obvious and much more of a community issue > -- at least for those who interact with children. > > I think the best description is "what works". In the process of > interacting and being forced to get along on a day to day basis, things > work out. People with strong and irrational biases are not likely to > move into cohousing -- or at least not into free-form cohousing. Perhaps > they might stumble into a Christian cohousing community, but not one > that advertises diversity. > > Groups develop a range of tolerance and people change. Lifestyles vary > widely and I still have huge problems with the gaudy orange and black > plastic table cloth a neighbor puts out where everyone has to look at it > 24/7 and the piles of cardboard boxes and trash some people store > outside their doors. So intolerance comes in all forms and the best a > group can do is develop norms that most everyone in that individual > group can live with. Then some people will go off and start a new > community. That's how we became American if I remember my history right. Perhaps a point too trivial: I prefer the term "prejudice" to "bias". "Bias" sounds too innocent. I can be biased in favor of, say, living in Europe or Canada. The word, "prejudice", on the other hand, is generally *against* something or someone. And it expresses more succinctly that a "pre-judgment" is being made, making a judgment before it is warranted, before there is evidence to support it. -- "This world ain't big enough for the both of us," said the big noema to the little noema.
- Re: Values in community, was sexuality, (continued)
- Re: Values in community, was sexuality Anna i Bartłomiej Jurkiewicz, March 16 2006
- Re: Values in community, was sexuality Bonnie Fergusson, March 16 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Sharon Villines, March 15 2006
- Re: Values in community, was sexuality ken, March 16 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Amy Gahran, March 16 2006
- Re: Values in community, was sexuality ken, March 17 2006
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