Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: RE: yadda yadda

[Kay Argyle (argyle]

Speaking for myself, I'd much rather get twenty-seven messages which I
delete after glancing at the first sentence, then a single message trying to
shut down the discussion when obviously a lot of people still have thoughts
on the matter.

Sometimes discussions do stray far afield from the nuts and bolts of
building cohousing.  Once the contractors pack up their trailers and pull
out, though, it's the human element you're left with -- and you find
yourself thinking that things were so much easier when it was just
construction loans and roof trusses you were struggling with.

(Not that they were, of course -- but while you were focussed on paint
colors, you could pretend the social engineering would work out magically
after move-in.  Human nature being what it is, the trail is always steepest
on the slope you're climbing right now.)

The recent high-volume discussion combined the elements of children and
community economics (who provides resources, who benefits from them) -- both
hot buttons!  And both tie into a lot of other subjects.  Sure, I winced
when I saw the "You have 42 unread messages" notice.  But a benefit of email
over face-to-face is that expression is limited by the individual's time
instead of by the group time -- everybody can "talk" at once; yet reception
can be selective -- if somebody rambles or doesn't seem to have any point,
you can skim or delete.

Kay

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