Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: inquiry about conflict resolution techniques

[Becky Schaller (bschaller]

Patty, I was quite interested in this message you wrote as I would like to
order one or two videos for people in our community to watch. There are
about 5 or 6 of us who are taking a 4 week class.  I'd like for as many
people as possible to be able to have an introduction  Would you give me
your opinion about which video would be best to order for an intro?

I, too, would like to know more about how to bring this process to meetings.

Thank you,
Becky Schaller
Sonora Cohousing

> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> Date: Sat, 3 Aug 2002 16:25:13 -0700
> Subject: Re: [C-L]_inquiry about conflict resolution techniques
> From: pattymara [at] juno.com
> Reply-To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> 
> Tierra Nueva is in the midst of a Marshall Rosenberg flurry too...we've
> watched videos, two of us went to a weekend seminar, 5 are in an 8 week
> study group and another group of us are planning a workbook/practice
> weekly class.  Our facilitator bag may soon have a pair of giraffe and
> jackal puppets and ears as part of the toolbox.
> 
> I highly recommend the training, or anything you can get your hands on.
> The website has the first chapter of the book, Non-Violent Communication:
> http://www.cnvc.org
> 
> The process involves coming from a heart connection, creating empathy,
> *first* before attempting to craft solutions.  Marshall asserts that this
> once a heart connection (like a giraffe's, which has the largest heart of
> the land mammals) is made, then true resolution can bubble up.    This
> man has brought this very simple process to prisons, warring tribes,
> international conflicts, with huge success.
> 
> I am interested to see how we can bring it into our meetings.  So much of
> our time is spent crafting solutions to disagreements without paying
> attention to our hearts.  The huge responsibility in this work is with
> the individual to know what one is feeling, and what needs arise from
> those feelings, and then making a request (not a demand) for something
> tangible that might fill the need(s).  All worthy work, but not the first
> thing that comes up usually in a conflict here (judgements, blame,
> criticism, attacks, withdrawals, you know, that familiar stuff we all
> do). 
> 
> coheartedly,
> Patty Mara, Tierra Nueva, Central CA Coast

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