Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Discrimination and political stereotypes

[WOLF1GDSFM (WOLF1GDSFM]

In a message dated 03-02-10 16:58:45 EST, Kay wrote:

<< I've gone through this in my own community, when an ideology seemed to be
 emerging that made me uncomfortable.  It wasn't that I didn't like the value
 or objected to others holding it.  I did mind being accused of not belonging
 here because I didn't wholeheartedly participate in it. My decision was to
 plant my heels -- this is my community, too, so if I don't willingly share
 an ideology or value, it cannot be a community value. >>

I live in a community that has resistance to developing a statement of shared 
values other than the value of protecting our investment.  For now, I am 
seeing how it will go, but to me it seems like this resistance is imposing a 
value which is sort of:

our community will have no community-wide shared values other than that of 
protecting our investment.

In my opinion, the cliche, "not to decide is to decide" is nevertheless true. 
 I do not know if I will want to live, long term, in a community that holds 
this (unstated or not) value.  If I am not mistaken in my perception and this 
situation does not change, I believe I will eventually leave.  I see no 
alternative, because even though I do not willingly share this value, it is a 
community value by default.  I merely want to live in a community that has 
some additional values that I support.

Jan Ankney
Sunward Cohousing
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