Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Teeth in Rules [Was dogs in community]

[Joanie Connors (jvcphd]

I think you have to build in rewards and consequences. Try to motivate
people to do right with rewards first, and resort to consequences when
people do wrong regardless. Then be ready to change things as needed
over time.

Even good people slip up now and then, so you have to still treat them
like your neighbor. Somehow all sides of any dispute must learn to do
that with each other.

On Sat, Jun 25, 2011 at 5:01 PM, PattyMara Gourley <pmgourley [at] gmail.com> 
wrote:
>
> Karen wrote:
> *I bet many of us are loathe to build in consequences at the
> time of an agreement is adopted unless things start to fall apart.*
>
>
> An 'honor system' requires that all the players be honorable.
>
> I believe it is a better idea to build in consequences at the time an
> agreement is adopted, because when things start to fall apart, it's already
> too late,,,,the damage has been done.   Do the heavy lifting early on.
> Consequences may or may not prove to be preventative.  But at least they
> will be in place, if needed.  Then, all ll that is required is the will to
> enforce them.  Easier said than done, but still a good idea.
>
> PattyMara
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