Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Consensus, Majority Vote, "Blocks" [was Report on Survey of Cohousing Communities 2011. Just released. A must read!

[R Philip Dowds (rpdowds]

Okay, I won't worry about "rights", but I will still have a difficulty with 
"bad manners".  As much as I want to believe in consensus and total equality of 
all participants, all the time, I still can't fully acclimate myself to the 
arrogance and bad manners of those who chose to ignore six months of proposal 
development, but then show up the general meeting of all, and block a proposal 
because they don't "like" it.  If you can't support a proposal ... where were 
you when your well-intentioned, hard-working neighbors were trying to craft it?

RPD

On Sep 25, 2011, at 11:30 AM, Elizabeth Magill wrote:

> 
> Remember the goal is a decision everyone supports.  Not just a decision. 
> So worrying about "rights" is the wrong focus. 
> 
> I certainly try to either trust the group writing the proposal, or to join 
> it. 
> 
> But no one is helping the group by "going along" and then complaining about, 
> downplaying, or not following it later. 
> 
> -liz 508-450-0431
> Sent from my iPhone
> 
> 
> On Sep 25, 2011, at 11:04 AM, R Philip Dowds <rpdowds [at] comcast.net> wrote:
> 
>> 
>> I would go further:  Members who did not actually participate in the 
>> crafting of a proposal should think really hard — like, I mean, really, 
>> really hard — before they block it in a community-wide meeting.  Weak 
>> participation = diminished rights. (Yes?)
>> 
>> RPD
>> 
>> On Sep 24, 2011, at 9:26 PM, Sharon Villines wrote:
>> 
>>> Any person who has an objection must explain it so it can be addressed and 
>>> must participate in the process of resolving it. 
>> 
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