Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Bullying

[Kathleen Lowry (kathleenlowrylpcclmft]

Cynthia-good presentation-thanks! Helpful to be reminded that we are all wired 
differently-why curiosity, listening an d appreciating differences is so 
important.
Yes, we know that “hurt people hurt people” and the most common denominator 
among bullies is that they feel unsafe and have had their boundaries not 
respected or needs ignored. 
And as a therapist, very often clients don’t realize or accept they are as 
sensitive as they are.
Still, I believe people have to be held accountable for their effect on 
others-otherwise they don’t grow, in my experience. And some even if they are 
held accountable don’t grow.
Kathleen 
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> The message was posted Mon Aug  8, 2022 during the discussion on
> Bullying and is being posted now when her presentation is available.
> Her presentation is at https://youtu.be/gqhfGBVINxA
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> I have a presentation on sensitivity that includes 30 plus years of
> research from different scientists and  shows that 70 percent of us
> are likely to be sensitive. Out of that 30 percent are highly
> sensitive. The remaining 30 percent are less sensitive. This is not a
> diagnosis but seems like an interesting strategy for our species.
> 
> What happens to the nervous system when a highly sensitive person
> feels bullied is not the same for all bodies.  For highly sensitive
> bodies- the impact on the nervous system hurts really bad.  Highly
> sensitive people need more skill, practice, and supportive
> environments. When bullying actors take charge of our environments,
> highly sensitive, often gifted, people step away.
> 
> I sometimes wonder if those who ‘bully” are actually highly sensitive.
> I wonder how many highly sensitive people are attracted to Cohousing
> for the promises of value based support.
> I wonder how to share this powerpoint presentation.
> 
> Cynthia Winton-Henry- Fair Oaks Ecohousing
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