Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Diversity

[Sharon Villines (sharon]

> This is not a good apology.
> Here’s a basic primer on apologies. Re your apology, numbers 1, 3, 4, 5 are 
> areas for improvement - especially 1.
> https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-apologize

Respecting diversity means that we cannot expect everyone to live by 
pre-established rules, certainly not rules they may never have even known about 
and have made no promise to follow.

When attempts at apologizing are rejected and rules are imposed about what an 
apology is, we are very far from respecting each person as a well-meaning and 
unique individual.

Healthline is a very good resource so probably this is a good guide to 
expressing an apology, but it is not a standard that can be autocratically 
imposed and used as a judgment of good or bad. Consent is required when making 
rules.

Sharon
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Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
http://www.takomavillage.org