Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Forming group crippled by new members

[Muriel Kranowski (murielk]

Ann is right that the best possibility of avoiding this problem is at the
forming stage, but that is precisely when the founding members are kind of
desperate to pull in additional people so the project can continue. There's
a certain amount of luck involved. I feel terrible for the forming group
described in Fred's note, and  they are surely not the only ones who've
experienced this.

One thing I feel wiser about now (learning from experience) is that it's
worth trying to speak very directly to the outliers and not ignore their
behavior out of niceness or wimpiness. That might or might not improve
things, but it's better than just hoping that one day they'll either feel
alienated enough to leave or they will have a flash of insight and will
change their behavior.
   Muriel @ Shadowlake Village