|Speaking out||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Lydia & Ray Ducharme (ducharm1cadvision.com)|
|Date: Tue, 15 Feb 2000 19:21:52 -0700 (MST)|
In our cohousing group I've spoken out more than once when I felt I was the lone dissenter with an unpopular opinion. Although I was very uncomfortable I had to take a stand. It's made me closer to the group for speaking openly and risking conflict, not less. I would have quit a long time ago if I couldn't trust the others to listen. Lydia Ducharme WholeLife Housing Calgary, Canada > I began thinking about what the impact of wanting to > please everybody would have on a prospective member. Dare I disagree with > the power elite (core group) Dare I bring up this point, for fear it may > cause others to disagree with me and endanger my membership? If the criteria > for picking members is, They get along with others, do I dare disagree? > > Maybe what such things do is weed out non self-effacing individuals? Free > Disagreement with the status group, with no social consequences, is a strong > point of a good collaborative process. In a healthy group, If I have a new > idea, I feel free to speak it, without fear of alienation or social > retribution. I know my idea will be fairly and equally examined just like > all the others. > > Would having my membership on the line cause me to speak out, or would I go > along with the status group? Hmmmm. This is a subtle and interesting group > dynamic issue perhaps. Or perhaps not. > > > Rob Sandelin > Northwest Intentional Communities Association > Building a better society, one neighborhood at a time > > > >
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