RE: Acid test for community | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: sbraun (sbraungmavt.net) | |
Date: Sat, 23 Nov 2002 17:38:01 -0700 (MST) |
Thanks for the response, Rob. Did the people who live in the community you described say that they liked it? Sheila Project Coordinator Champlain Valley Cohousing www.champlainvalleycohousing.org (802) 425-5030 phone (802) 425-5033 fax (802) 238-2667 cell > -----Original Message----- > From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org [mailto:cohousing-l- > admin [at] cohousing.org] On Behalf Of Rob Sandelin > Sent: Saturday, November 23, 2002 3:48 PM > To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > Subject: [C-L]_Acid test for community > > Sheila Braun thought from a post that my acid test for community is a > willingness to lend a car. No, it is just one sort of measure of how well > you know your neighbors. In pretty much every community I have visited, > borrowing things from one another is a normal part of community life. The > borrowing a cup of sugar is a defining sign to me. When people are > strangers, you go to the store rather than walk across the hall to borrow > a > cup of sugar. This comfort level with interaction is a key base for > understanding your level of community. If you know your neighbors, you > have > a base comfort level in borrowing small things from them. > > A car, is a much bigger thing to borrow, and is a bigger sign of comfort > and > knowledge. Yes, there are people in my own community, some of whom I have > known for 12 years, who I would not comfortably loan my car to. But there > are many others who can have my keys whenever they need them. (assuming I > don't need it). In general, I have a base comfort system that my need for > a > car is supported. I feel that if I ever should need a car or a ride, I can > get that fairly easily. And I have several examples over the years of > living > here, both giving and receiving, that supports this comfort level. My > sister, who has lived in the same neighborhood in Seattle for 25 years, > does not have this. When she needed a ride last week, she called a cab. > > In the condo with a social design I was using for an example, there were > dozens of things which told me about the level of relationship of the > residents. Another example was that there were picnic tables in the nice > grassy community commons that most the units looked over. They are rarely > ever used? Why? Because they were Too public. The people who lived in this > condo wanted their privacy. They were apparently uncomfortable being out > in > the social space. In many places in America, neighborhood social isolation > has become an astonishing norm in many suburban places. As cohousers, we > are > some kind of weirdos. We CHOOSE to interact with our neighbors, in fact, > we > want it so much, some of us spend incredible amounts of energy and time to > design and build social interaction based neighborhoods from the ground > up. > News teams come and do stories on how we are bucking the trends. It's > newsworthy that neighborhood social interaction is desired and > accomplished > by some people. But the norm is isolation. > > There have been numerous stories over the years on this list, at cohousing > gatherings, etc to illustrate how easy cohousers find asking their > neighbors > for various levels of support. Sometimes of course the answer to asking is > No, but asking is typically not really a huge barrier, especially at the > cup > of sugar level. I would say that the comfort level you have in asking your > neighbors for support you need is a an ingredient that defines the social > fabric of your community. And of course, the giving of support is another. > What you do for each other says a lot about the level of what I would call > "community". Community meals are a prime example of this. Yes, there is a > self-serving part to community meals. But it is also a large community > service. > > So the ability to borrow a car is just one way to understand a level of > community. And of course, the place I was describing was NOT a community > by > intention. It was just a nicely designed condo and it was a prime example, > in my learning, of how little architecture determines community level. I > know there are people who have this strong belief system that architecture > is a key element of community. Many of them are architects and I have > argued > with them for years. From my experiences, just putting people together > does > not make them a "community". They have to want to be a community, want to > have relationships enough to put some energy into it. Yes, you can create > a > nice social design, but if the people who live there don't want to be > social, then your design will not create the interaction, other than at a > very superficial level. I would dare to opine that cohousing has > aspirations > to be much more than superficially social. The social design elements > built > into cohousing projects work because we want to be social in the first > place, and so creating designs to enhance social opportunity make it > easier > to do what we already strongly desire. > > > Rob Sandelin > Sharingwood > > > -----Original Message----- > From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org > [mailto:cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org]On Behalf Of sbraun > Sent: Saturday, November 23, 2002 5:16 AM > To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > Subject: RE: [C-L]_Do cohousers care about "bricks and sticks"? > > > Hi Rob. > > Thanks for your interesting and enjoyable posts to this list. I really > enjoy reading them. > > However, here we disagree, I think. It sounds like your acid test for > community is a willingness to share cars. My own would be laughter. But > a red flag goes up for me when an outsider makes a judgment about > another community, or even makes a general judgment about what community > should be. There is a hint of superiority about that. > > I wonder if there aren't people out there for whom what you call "just a > condo" is really and truly deeply satisfying and life-enriching, and for > whom the kind of community you find fulfilling would seem like a prison. > There are many paths to happiness and fulfillment. We cohousers don't > have a corner on the right way to live. > > Sheila > > Project Coordinator > Champlain Valley Cohousing > www.champlainvalleycohousing.org > (802) 425-5030 phone > (802) 425-5033 fax > (802) 238-2667 cell > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org [mailto:cohousing-l- > > admin [at] cohousing.org] On Behalf Of Rob Sandelin > > Sent: Friday, November 22, 2002 6:49 PM > > To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > > Subject: RE: [C-L]_Do cohousers care about "bricks and sticks"? > > > > I can show you a condo in Bellevue WA that has a brilliant cohousing > > design, > > pedestrian core, play area, nice community center that is central and > easy > > to look into from almost every unit. It even has a nice kitchen, > although > > not industrial grade. It has very little community. The neighbors are > > pretty much still strangers, some after 5 years. It is nothing like a > > cohousing community in terms of relationships. I asked my guide there > if > > she > > felt comfortable asking to borrow a car. She looked at me like I was > from > > Mars. There is nothing there but the typical condo. > > > > So sorry, I do not believe in bricks and sticks having much to do > with > > community. Its not the architecture, its the people and their desires > and > > intentions that make cohousing what it is, a community by intention. > > There > > are hundreds of Intentional communities that are not cohousing,that > have > > good relationships and totally isolating architecture. If architecture > > really was the key why do those places work? Because it is the > intentions > > of > > the people do have those relationships. Take away that intention for > > relationship from cohousing, and all you have left is a condo. In > fact, at > > least one cohousing group, common ground in Aspen, lost its intention > and > > became just another condo. There are a couple other cohousing groups > which > > have large percentage of the people who live there not involved, > > apparently > > uninterested in community. They just want a safe, cheap place to > live. It > > will interesting to see if those cohousing groups also don't just end > up > > as > > condos. > > > > Rob Sandelin > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org > > [mailto:cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org]On Behalf Of Sharon Villines > > Sent: Friday, November 22, 2002 8:36 AM > > To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > > Subject: Re: [C-L]_Do cohousers care about "bricks and sticks"? > > > > > > On 11/20/02 2:12 PM, "Howard Landman" <howard [at] polyamory.org> wrote: > > > > > I believe that the design of the community can have an immense > > > impact on the day-to-day functioning of it. Even something as > simple as > > > having the common house in the middle versus on one end can make a > huge > > > difference. > > > > The bricks and sticks are important as long as they are related to a > > deeper > > value, building economically, socially, and ecologically sustainable > > communities. Intelligent investment in our personal spaces is a very > > fundamental way of putting our money (time and thought) where our > mouth > > is. > > Along with our hearts and feet. > > > > The bricks and sticks are one of the unique and defining > characteristics > > of > > cohousing. > > > > Sharon > > -- > > Sharon Villines > > Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC > > http://www.takomavillage.org > > > > _______________________________________________ > > Cohousing-L mailing list > > Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: > > http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l > > > > --- > > Incoming mail is certified Virus Free. > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > Version: 6.0.332 / Virus Database: 186 - Release Date: 3/6/02 > > > > --- > > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > Version: 6.0.332 / Virus Database: 186 - Release Date: 3/6/02 > > > > _______________________________________________ > > Cohousing-L mailing list > > Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: > > http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l > > _______________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list > Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: > http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l > > --- > Incoming mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.332 / Virus Database: 186 - Release Date: 3/6/02 > > --- > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.332 / Virus Database: 186 - Release Date: 3/6/02 > > _______________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list > Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: > http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
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