Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Dahako (Dahakoaol.com) | |
Date: Wed, 19 Feb 2003 13:27:01 -0700 (MST) |
Hey - In watching this list, it's my observation that talking about big feelings (like hostility, fear, glee, etc) seems to go better when we each stick to talking about our own. Now I have definitely felt hostile toward children in cohousing from time to time (OK, usually when I reached a level I'd call hostile, I was feeling that about my own kids!) Seriously, a community with a lot of kids - like Eno Commons in Durham (where I used to live) with 20+ kids under 12 years old - can feel very child-centric, even to a devoted parent. We did a number of things in Eno Commons to try to make it OK for adults to talk about feelings about other people's kids (an even trickier subject than pets) so we could figure out what the problems were and build some workable solutions. For example, if kid noise was a problem during a meeting, members felt free to add that to the meeting evaluation as a thing to change for next time. Every community does have its own flavor. The one I'm with now, Eastern Village, in Silver Spring, Maryland (snow, anyone?) looks as if it is going to open its doors with only a few households with children. (Given the number of young couples, and the good school system, I think we may have more kids in the not too distant future. . .) I've been keeping my kids very much in evidence (with dog) at marketing and social events, so my new neighbors will know the place isn't kid-free. Still, I assume the kid issues here will be very different than in our previous "kid-rich" environment. later- Jessie Handforth Kome Eastern Village Silver Spring, Maryland Where we now have about 30 households and are heading for our first vision statement meetings, commonhouse programming and unit design workshops. Full steam ahead! www.easternvillage.org _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L
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