Re: divorce in cohousing
From: Doug Huston (hustonashlandcoho.com)
Date: Tue, 11 Feb 2014 07:20:59 -0800 (PST)
That is correct.
- Doug

On Feb 11, 2014, at 12:42 AM, regine <chknsoup1 [at] aol.com> wrote:

> 
> I assume the person in Ashland cohousing who is no longer a member of the 
> community  as a result of a divorce would no longer be an owner of the unit 
> otherwise it seems like legally they would retain their right to decision 
> making and the like.  Regine Wilson, Nevada City cohousing
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> From: Elizabeth Magill <pastorlizm [at] gmail.com>
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> Sent: Mon, Feb 10, 2014 06:42 PM
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> wow! at five years old I feel our community is too young to have a strong 
> opinion.
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> but we've had two divorces where all parties still own homes here, and live 
> here, and as we head into a third divorce in process many people are working 
> hard to help one member to find a rental so they can stay.
> 
> I don't know if we are setting ourselves up for more challenges (we've 
> certainly had some) but I also can't imagine telling the parent of a child 
> living here that the parent can't be a member.
> 
> -Liz
> (The Rev.) Elizabeth M. Magill
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> On Feb 10, 2014, at 9:06 PM, Doug Huston <<a href="mailto:huston [at] 
> ashlandcoho.com">huston [at] ashlandcoho.com</a>> wrote:
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>> 
>> At times I’ve read on this list serve how stressful break-ups/divorces have 
>> been on communities. 
>> In our community, we are considering the following proposal: 
>> When a couple breaks up, the person who moves out of the community is 
>> automatically no longer a member of the community. 
>> This means he/she cannot be an off-site member, a category which exist for 
>> some communities.
>> This would be the default situation. Exceptions could be considered. If 
>> after one year the member who moved out wants to re-join, the group could 
>> choose to consider this - or not.
>> The intention behind this is to insulate the community (to some extent) from 
>> the common challenges, stress, and tensions which usually accompany 
>> break-ups, and would likely be heightened if both parties remain formally 
>> involved in community activities. 
>> We are wondering what others in communities think, and if there are similar 
>> or related policies regarding break-ups elsewhere in cohousing. 
>> Thanks for your comments in advance.
>> 
>> Doug Huston - Ashland (Oregon) Cohousing Community 
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