Re: What’s so funny ‘bout peace love & understanding? | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: castrohom [at] aol.com (castrohomaol.com) | |
Date: Mon, 15 Feb 2016 10:50:22 -0800 (PST) |
I find this thread thoroughly thought provoking In our own newly forming community there was an emphasis on conflict resolution and non-violent this or that - which inevitably focusses on - well resolving conflict and violence. And it made some of us uneasy. We had some interesting discussions about this issue that included pondering on what might happen if there were a more active focus on enhancing goodwill and kindness and all those other fine community building qualities. Our Process Committee changed it’s name to CUE: Communication and Understanding Enhancement. The mission of the Process Working Group is to create healthy communication within our community through ongoing education, evaluation, and process improvement. We agreed that it was not intended to resolve issues that arise but to reinforce the need for healthy communication within the group. The hope is that through good communication practices we can often resolve differences with win-win compromises. Our processes must meet the needs of a variety of personalities each with their own tolerance and method of addressing conflict. For example, some people are more comfortable dealing with strong feelings in writing rather than in a discussion. We are not expecting to be conflict-free but focussing on the good will and kindness has definitely made me a better person. Our ‘wordle’ based on a community survey about what is important to individuals in our group about living in community Warm wishes! Miranda Gainesville Cohousing On Feb 14, 2016, at 2:27 AM, John Carver <jcarver [at] islandnet.com> wrote: > > On 11/02/2016 10:38 AM, Igor Cerny... observed, if I may paraphrase, that > while postings to coho-L have a lot about the mechanics of creating and > maintaining cohousing, "what I don’t see as often are discussions about such > things as kindness or civility within communities." > > In fact there often are discussions about dealing with difficult people, who > may be unkind or uncivil, but I don't think that's quite what he's getting at. > > Perhaps there's an underlying assumption that anyone wanting cohousing wants > an atmosphere of kindness and civility so it's not worth discussing. Or is it > that we don't know how to create it? > > It's long been my view that we can engineer environments but we can't > engineer people. To illustrate, we can design a common house that we perceive > to be welcoming and that invites warm and friendly interactions, but we can't > design how people will feel or interact within that space. > > John Carver > Pacific Gardens Cohousing, Nanaimo, BC > http://pacificgardens.ca/ > (a warm and friendly environment) > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > > _________________________ Miranda Castro Mailing: 2349 NW 32nd Place, Gainesville, FL 32605 Phone: 352-505-8545 Email: mirandacastro [at] aol.com
-
What’s so funny ‘bout peace love & understanding? iggypopsa1, February 11 2016
-
Re: What’s so funny ‘bout peace love & understanding? John Carver, February 13 2016
- Re: What’s so funny ‘bout peace love & understanding? castrohom [at] aol.com, February 15 2016
- Re: What’s so funny ‘bout peace love & understanding? R Philip Dowds, February 16 2016
- Re: What’s so funny ‘bout peace love & understanding? Sharon Villines, February 16 2016
- Re: What’s so funny ‘bout peace love & understanding? Sharon Villines, February 16 2016
-
Re: What’s so funny ‘bout peace love & understanding? John Carver, February 13 2016
Results generated by Tiger Technologies Web hosting using MHonArc.