Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: poly vs gay, poly & coho

[Deb Smyre (dsmyre]

At 11:14 PM 10/25/1999 -0500, Howard Landman wrote:
>I apologize in advance that my first posts to this list are somewhat
>argumentative in nature, and also (in this case) rather off-topic
>from cohousing.  It's not what I would have desired; but, this is a
>core issue for me and one on which I have read and thought quite a lot.

        Hi, Howard.  Did someone call you in as an
        'expert' to support the pro-poly side of this discussion?

>Deb wrote:
>>      What I mean by "being" is something that's hard-wired
>>      to our physical circuits, is inescapable and over which
>>      we have no choice.
>
>Would this include, say, whether someone like the taste of cilantro
>or not?  Would it include "falling in love with a person" (of either
>gender)?  Would it include "falling in love with person B while I'm
>already involved with person A"?

        Nope, nope and nope.  And I'm going to apologize to you in
        advance now.  I am so uninterested in your brand of 
        proselytizing for the sake of justifying polyamory that
        any further discussion on this topic with you would surely be
        meaningless for both of us.  Forgive me, but I truly don't
        have the stomach for it, plus I feel it's inappropriate for
        this particular forum.

        Deb