Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: What's wrong with communes vs. families

[Hans Tilstra (hanstilstra]

> It seems to me that all of the above [ breach of healthy interpersonal
boundaries] occurs often enough in families.
> Yet, we don't claim that all families are bad, or that we should
> avoid using the word 'family'.

. I am convinced that in both families & communes the breach of healthy
interpersonal boundaries is harmful, particularly when the two have
children.

My hypothesis is that unhealthy interpersonal boundaries are more likely in
communes. Hence my attraction to cohousing, as it builds in privacy &
community. I like the healthy financial boundaries, the clever use of space,
the selection & consultation process. I like the level of informed consent,
the level of collaboration, the intelligence of the typical cohouser and I
particularly like the nuances in the above listed.

Hans
tilstra [at] smartchat.net.au






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