Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: rules

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Wayne:
>> There is something subtly disrespectful implied by posting rules;

Lynn Nadeau / Maraiah:
> NOT having rules/guidelines can lead to a lot more tension than coming
> to clarity about some bottom-line stuff. ... with advance permission
> then folks know to ask ahead, and neighbors also know they
> have a right to call and remind

I think this is a key tension in many groups. We have it, it sounds as
though others do too.

I think a lot of us have been on both sides of these, I know I have,
and I've decided that for me at least clear rules are better. That way
at least I get to make an informed choice about obeying (or not)
whatever rules there are. The alternative is that I suffer social
sanction for something I didn't know was wrong.

So I volunteer to write stuff up, maintain websites, whatever is needed
so that people can find out what the situation is. Which takes time, and
often annoys people, but I'd rather have that than the alternative.

Moz