Cohousing-L Mailing List: Cohousing as a transformational influence upon society Was: Teeth in Rules

[Wayne Tyson (landrest]

Moz and CoHo:

Not yet being a cohouser when I subscribed, I suppose I had a bit of a 
utopian view of cohousing as a transforming influence on how humans from 
fractured environments reintegrate into social wholes again and thus become 
the enlightened future of both urban and rural living. Living together has 
long been quite a challenge, and it must be more so.

I would be most interested in what keeps cohousing communities together and 
what causes their disintegration.

WT

PS: I'd be especially interested in Moz's "backstory," as I would in that of 
someone perfectly content with their cohousing experience.


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Moz" <list [at] moz.geek.nz>
To: "Cohousing-L" <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
Sent: Monday, June 27, 2011 5:11 PM
Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Teeth in Rules


> Randa said:
> > We try to follow Rob Sandelin's excellent advice: if you are doing
> > too much and resenting how much others are or aren't doing - take
> > a step back and either do less or change your attitude.
>
> Unfortunately we have a few people who used to drive the group forward
> who have taken Rob's advice. First they stopped working, then they
> decided that co-housing is not for them. At this stage I've done the
> former and am close to changing my attitude as well, from "do the work
> or get out" to "cohousing is not for me".
>
> Rob's advice only works if everyone is trapped in the group. Cohousing
> relies on people having a huge amount of money tied up in their property
> that they can't easily extract. Which kind of works once you're
> established, but for groups trying to build a cohousing community the
> coercive power is not there.
>
> Moz
>
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