Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: racheli (rachelisonoracohousing.com) | |
Date: Wed, 19 Feb 2003 12:02:02 -0700 (MST) |
Hi Howard, I suppose your post is meant to exemplify/model how NOT to write an inflamatory email :) ... I'm not going to get into a talmudic debate with you about what I said or didn't say and what it meant (or didn't), since it seems to me to be a waste of my time. Regarding the use of the term "hostility": Yes, I stand by it. I do think there are quite a few people in cohousing (as well as out of it) with hostile attitudes towards children. I used the terms because it reflects my thinking, not so as to offend you or anyone. Judging from some of the responses I got (privately), there are others who agree with me. Regardless of whether we are right or wrong, the perception exists. Perhaps it's even rooted in reality. R. >> It WOULD be stereotyping to say that "anyone who would prefer to live >> without something is hostile to that things". However, I didn't say it, >> You did. and I don't think I implied it, either. What I DID say was >> that it makes sense for those who are hostile to children to live in >> a place where there are no, or very few children. >You implied, because you were replying to someone who simply said she >didn't wish to live with children at this stage of her life, that such a >person was necessarily or likely "hostile to children". Also, in a later >email, you *insisted* on the term "hostility": >> Just because you met people out of cohousing who feel >> that way doesn't prove that it isn't hostility >(Actually, it does. If you make a blanket statement that purports to be >universally valid, then it only takes one counterexample to prove it >false. He was responding to your original apparent position, but here >you shifted your apparent position from "must be hostility" to "might be >hostility sometimes".) >I felt your choice of "hostile" was inflammatory, insulting, and not >logically justifiable. It's a very strong and emotionally loaded term >(see the definition below). And I'm not the only one who felt that. You >don't seem aware that insulting people might cause a reaction. Or maybe >you didn't expect anyone to feel insulted? >Anyway, I was trying to point out that the (unstated) logic you appeared >to be following simply didn't make sense. To do that, I had to state >what you left unstated, that is, explicitly state the logical premise >that you appeared to be using. Since you now say that you disagree with >it as well, I'm puzzled about how you reached your conclusion. You leapt >from "doesn't want to live with children" to "is hostile to children". >How did you get there? > Howard A. Landman > River Rock Commons > Fort Collins CO >hostility, n: > 1. a feeling of enmity, ill will, unfriendliness, etc.; antagonism. > 2. (a) expression of enmity and ill will; active opposition; > hostile act; (b) a state of war; acts of war; warfare. >_______________________________________________ >Cohousing-L mailing list >Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: >http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L -- ----------------------------------------------------------- racheli [at] sonoracohousing.com ----------------------------------------------------------- _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ?, (continued)
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? Howard Landman, February 17 2003
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? racheli, February 18 2003
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? Sara A., February 18 2003
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? Howard Landman, February 19 2003
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? racheli, February 19 2003
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? Grant McCormick, February 19 2003
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? racheli, February 19 2003
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? Grant McCormick, February 19 2003
- Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ? racheli, February 20 2003
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