Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Fifty Plus Cohousing + ?

[racheli (racheli]

Grant wrote:

>Racheli,

>The reaction some on this list had to your comments seems similar to the 
>reaction in our community when needs are labeled with terms like
>"hostile".

I think this might be construed to mean that I am run around
Sonora Cohousing, calling people in my community "hostile".   I deny this
emphatically.  
I'd like to add that I don't need Grant or anyone else to lecture  me on
why not calling people "hostile" when looking for 
common ground is counter-productive.  

I thought that we were having a fairly abstract discussion
regarding attitudes of people who want to have separate
communities, based on age segragation, and on some sub-issues. Saying in a
general way that there are people in cohousing
(as well as elsewhere) who have, IMO,  hostile attitudes to kids IS NOT
THE SAME as saying that *person A has such an attitude*. (This last one
would constitute a name-calling act).
[An analogy would be: Assume I said that I've noticed racist
attitudes on the part of some people in cohousing, would people say that
I'm engaging in name-calling?  If it is "name calling", then how can we
honestly discuss such perceptions?  If we can't  discuss negative
perceptions because someone might take an offense, and call it "name
calling", then why exactly are we here?] 

R. (In a fairly pissed off mode)...

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racheli [at] sonoracohousing.com
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