Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Richart Keller (richart.kellergmail.com) | |
Date: Thu, 21 Jan 2016 18:33:28 -0800 (PST) |
I would add disruptive behaviors, particularly actions that ignore the impact on the community. Rick Keller On Thu, Jan 21, 2016 at 6:30 PM, Mary Baker, Solid Communications < mary [at] solid-communications.com> wrote: > > Ah, I feel your pain. I will add that to the list, thanks! > > I had to learn a lot of things the hard way when I moved here. Since then, > I’ve offered to expand our welcome kit to include some basics and an FAQ > (the welcome team uses an out-of-date one-page handout that doesn’t really > say anything). But I’m not even getting enough buy-in to make it worth my > time. The buddy system helps. But when you’re unpacking and you don’t have > a friend network yet, it can be really burdensome and tiring to have to > keep asking about basic things. > > I value F2F as much as the next person, but I think the Old Guard (and I’m > referring to cohousings in general) may have forgotten how exhausting it > can be to pack, move, and settle in to a new community. And—this may be an > unpopular opinion here—I also think that withholding basic information > about parking, bike lockers, guest room, workshop keys, CH policy, etc., > and forcing people to knock on your door until they get an answer is a form > of control. > > And storing crap in the CH? One of my big bugaboos. People drop off loads > of junk that no one would ever want, just because they don’t want to be > “that person” that throws something away. When I hosted monthly wine > tastings which included people from all over the city, I always had to move > junk out onto the patio (and clean the fridge and wash dishes and windows. > Whew.) So I hosted one freecycle event that was a huge hit! No torn, dirty > clothes or broken games. We had a TON of good stuff. Seems no one wants to > bring their garbage when they know others are watching. ;P > > Mary > > From: Sharon Villines > Sent: Thursday, January 21, 2016 3:59 PM > To: Mary Baker, Solid Communications ; cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? > > A wonderful list. You might add lack of clarity in expectations. What is > expected or should be done in this case or that, isn’t clear. Long time > residents believe one thing but newer residents have been told something > else. > > I want to bang my head on the wall when we have fought off bikes (and > other personal items) stored in the basement for years. Then one long time > resident who feels sorry for new young residents, says just put it in the > basement. There is plenty of room. > > I had cooked the turkey for Thanksgiving dinner for years so turkey wasn’t > included on the sign up sheet. Then a new person made the list and included > the turkey. Someone else signed up and no one caught the error until > Thanksgiving Morning — despite emails about purchasing the turkey and did > people want an organic turkey, and the turkey going in the oven the night > before (slow cooking), a new member was cooking his at home. > > His wife walked into the CH Thanksgiving morning and smelled turkey. She > was very angry on his behalf and said why doesn’t anyone tell us these > things. It’s hard. > > Sharon > ---- > Sharon Villines > Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC > http://www.takomavillage.org > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > > >
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Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Mary Baker, Solid Communications, January 21 2016
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Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Sharon Villines, January 21 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Kay Wilson, January 21 2016
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Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Mary Baker, Solid Communications, January 21 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Richart Keller, January 21 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? R Philip Dowds, January 22 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Sharon Villines, January 22 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? R Philip Dowds, January 22 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Mary Baker, Solid Communications, January 22 2016
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Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Sharon Villines, January 21 2016
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