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From: Sharon Villines (sharonsharonvillines.com) | |
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 2016 10:40:21 -0800 (PST) |
> On Jan 21, 2016, at 6:30 PM, Mary Baker, Solid Communications <mary [at] > solid-communications.com> wrote: > > \I had to learn a lot of things the hard way when I moved here. Since then, > I’ve offered to expand our welcome kit to include some basics and an FAQ (the > welcome team uses an out-of-date one-page handout that doesn’t really say > anything). But I’m not even getting enough buy-in to make it worth my time. > The buddy system helps. But when you’re unpacking and you don’t have a friend > network yet, it can be really burdensome and tiring to have to keep asking > about basic things. We have always had an orientation person who met with new people and gave them various sorts of information. But it was 1-2 months or more after they moved in, because they were busy moving in!!!! We had a FAQ list on the members website but no one could l access it until they had closed on their units and gotten connected to the email lists and passwords. So along with gathering contact information, I started sending a copy to new residents before they moved in. I didn’t ask permission or go through any multi-layer approval process. I did it. When we moved in people didn’t want a contact list because residents were supposed to go to YahooGroups and fill in their own contact information. But this was in 2000 when only 50% of our people were online every day. And not all of those even wanted to go to YahooGroups website. A member is not inconvenienced by their out of date contact info — everyone else is. I was also concerned that we were trying to be a caring community and had no idea who to call if a member had an emergency. In the context of friends and family, or medicinal allergies, we were strangers. If someone fell over with a heart attack on the green, we would have had to just call an ambulance, the same way we would if they were a stranger on the street. I started a database and printed contact sheets. I kept track of birthdates, emergency medical info, who to contact in emergencies, etc. Those contact sheets were the only thing I have ever done for the community, except maybe cook turkey, that people were most grateful for and used every day. For years I didn’t give it up because it was the one thing people would always send positive vibes for. We now have resale and orientation teams that handle this process very thoroughly. > I value F2F as much as the next person, but I think the Old Guard (and I’m > referring to cohousings in general) may have forgotten how exhausting it can > be to pack, move, and settle in to a new community. And—this may be an > unpopular opinion here—I also think that withholding basic information about > parking, bike lockers, guest room, workshop keys, CH policy, etc., and > forcing people to knock on your door until they get an answer is a form of > control. As you see above, I agree on this so far as it can be done easily. To hand someone a list of all of this will also overwhelm them. They have all the formalized policies from the resale packet that is required by law here. What I was referring to as better F2F is stuff that depends on the year you ask or that may be particular to you. Writing down the process of signing up for meals depends on what meal when and is subject to change by the meal. What our list people want to do now is put EVERYTHING in writing. How to use the kitchen, where to put the dishes, how to sign up for meals, etc. Aside from the fact that not everyone will agree on what should be in writing, it will take tons of time and be outdated by the time it is written. New people will be overwhelmed by this. And many oldies will laugh because they don’t do things that way at all. Things in writing take on the rule of law. Some people would be carrying around the book to check on everything they did to be sure it wasn’t wrong. Or be afraid to do anything at all. In your case, I would just put the basic uncontroversial info together and circulate it “This might be helpful… “ I’m afraid my standard response to people questioning me is, "Do you have a better solution? When you do, let me know. In the meantime, I’m doing this.” I can’t stand it when something is not done because a team didn’t decide it could be. Cohousers are just as capable of pointless bureaucracy as anyone else—perhaps even more capable since they tend to be smart and educated. Sharon ---- Sharon Villines Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC http://www.takomavillage.org
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any?, (continued)
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? R Philip Dowds, January 22 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Mary Baker, Solid Communications, January 22 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? R Philip Dowds, January 23 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Jerry McIntire, January 23 2016
- Community Information [ was Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Sharon Villines, January 22 2016
- Re: Community Information [ was Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any?} Refuses to play by the rules Mary Baker, Solid Communications, January 22 2016
- Re: Community Information [ was Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any?} Refuses to play by the rules Mary Baker, Solid Communications, January 22 2016
- Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any? Sharon Villines, January 22 2016
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