Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: conflict resolution process

[Margaret Weatherly (martiew]

Hi Kate. I am a member of LIberty Village Cohousing. I would say there is no 
one process. There are a few questions you can ask yourself that may point you 
in a direction:

Do you have an agreed-upon mission and/or vision statement? If so, that is a 
good place to keep going back to.  If not, some of the work you do to create 
one may lessen some of the conflict.

Are you able to communicate openly as a group? If someone has a complaint, do 
they feel comfortable bringing it up at meetings? If not, you can start with 
exercises in the books mentioned recently on consensus and facilitation that 
begin to allow people to share more openly in a group.

Do you have experienced facilitators?  We not only use our facilitators for 
meetings but they will talk to a small group or a few people who are having 
conflict and help work it out. 

In my opinion, a lot of conflict can be resolved by learning to listen and 
really get what the other person is saying, whether individually or in a group. 
Good luck. 

Martie Weatherly
Liberty Village Cohousing
Libertytown, MD
martiew [at] earthlink.net

-----Original Message-----
From: Kate Nichols <knichols [at] bellcoho.com>
Date: Sat, 9 Feb 2002 08:16:42 -0800
To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
Subject: [C-L]_conflict resolution process


> Our community has no process for handling conflicts or grievances. We 
> are in a spaghetti of a mess right now and need a process. I looked 
> up conflict resolution in the archives, but kept running into 
> messages that were no longer available. Could I please get processes 
> from other groups or resources. thank you, Kate Nichols, Bellingham 
> Cohousing, Bellingham, WA
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