|Re: members leaving the community||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Sharon Villines (sharonsharonvillines.com)|
|Date: Thu, 31 Oct 2002 10:05:02 -0700 (MST)|
On 31/10/2002 3:48 AM, "Elizabeth Stevenson" <tamgoddess [at] attbi.com> wrote: > We have found that it is difficult to keep in touch with members who move > away. So, it really IS saying goodbye, even if we're in denial every single > time. I've moved a lot, probably 100 times in my life beginning as a war baby living with various relatives. I've probably been in denial my whole life about leaving being leaving, but saying goodbye is much more difficult than just leaving and intending to stay in touch. Also moving on to a new life is hard enough, with all the arrangements and adjustment to change, that a ceremony about it seems worse. Putting words on things makes them more real than if you don¹t. As the leaver, you have to listen to everyone else's feelings, which can be a real burden. And after everyone has said goodbye, how do you return????? On the other hand, no one noticing that you are leaving is much worse. Perhaps helping and celebrating the future would be better than commemorating the past and focusing on loss (which not everyone will feel anyway). Sharon -- Sharon Villines Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC http://www.takomavillage.org _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
- members leaving the community Diana Porter, October 29 2002
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