Cohousing-L Mailing List: Bullying

[Alan O'Hashi (adoecos]

Susan: Bullying stifles participation. We have three/four bullies at our place. 
They gaslight their social malady as "initiative." Initiative is one thing, but 
when it evolves into self-interest and hubris because they don't get their way, 
that's when it becomes bullying. The problem at my place, is the bullies have 
cronies who are enablers, "Oh, It's not about So-and-So. Let's get back to the 
issue." My bullies tend to gang up on the same people, who are the meeker 
community members - mostly women - so misogyny also is at play. One person was 
so adamant about getting in the last word on an issue, that on the night of the 
community meeting, they wrote a terse and whiney email threatening not to 
follow the policy if it was adopted.

I devote a few chapters of my book to bullying behavior, causes and 
accountability:https://smile.amazon.com/True-Stories-Aging-Do-Gooder-cohousing-ebook/dp/B08P4WRRG1/


Alan O


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  2. Re: Bullying (Kathleen Lowry)
  3. Diversity Training Package (Crystal Farmer)
  4. Re: Bullying (Diana Carroll)
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