Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Diversity

[Kathleen Lowry (kathleenlowrylpcclmft]

Hmmm… it’s about a white person using it. 

> On Feb 23, 2023, at 12:28 PM, Margo Solod <margosolod [at] gmail.com> wrote:
> 
> Hi, all,
> 
> seems to me the reaction to Zev's post just proves his point. If you are
> uncomfortable seeing an offensive term spelled out how are you going to
> feel if someone shouts it across the quad?
> 
> On Thu, Feb 23, 2023 at 8:39 AM Sharon Villines via Cohousing-L <
> cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> wrote:
> 
>>> This is not a good apology.
>>> Here’s a basic primer on apologies. Re your apology, numbers 1, 3, 4, 5
>> are areas for improvement - especially 1.
>>> https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-apologize
>> 
>> Respecting diversity means that we cannot expect everyone to live by
>> pre-established rules, certainly not rules they may never have even known
>> about and have made no promise to follow.
>> 
>> When attempts at apologizing are rejected and rules are imposed about what
>> an apology is, we are very far from respecting each person as a
>> well-meaning and unique individual.
>> 
>> Healthline is a very good resource so probably this is a good guide to
>> expressing an apology, but it is not a standard that can be autocratically
>> imposed and used as a judgment of good or bad. Consent is required when
>> making rules.
>> 
>> Sharon
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>> Sharon Villines
>> Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
>> http://www.takomavillage.org
>> 
>> 
>> 
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