Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Diversity

[Hafidha Sofia (hafidhaao]

Sharon,
I never said anything about rules. I included the healthline link as an 
explanatory aid. No reason for me to write a thousand words explaining why an 
apology is lousy when someone else has aptly described what a good apology is. 

Reclaiming my time!
Hafidha


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> On Feb 23, 2023, at 8:39 AM, Sharon Villines via Cohousing-L <cohousing-l 
> [at] cohousing.org> wrote:
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>> 
>> This is not a good apology.
>> Here’s a basic primer on apologies. Re your apology, numbers 1, 3, 4, 5 are 
>> areas for improvement - especially 1.
>> https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-apologize
> 
> Respecting diversity means that we cannot expect everyone to live by 
> pre-established rules, certainly not rules they may never have even known 
> about and have made no promise to follow.
> 
> When attempts at apologizing are rejected and rules are imposed about what an 
> apology is, we are very far from respecting each person as a well-meaning and 
> unique individual.
> 
> Healthline is a very good resource so probably this is a good guide to 
> expressing an apology, but it is not a standard that can be autocratically 
> imposed and used as a judgment of good or bad. Consent is required when 
> making rules.
> 
> Sharon
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> Sharon Villines
> Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
> http://www.takomavillage.org
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