Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: community agreements on conflict resolution

[R Philip Dowds (rphilipdowds]

There’s always the possibility that “irrational" interpersonal conflict impacts 
the community's quality of life.  For instance, some members seriously dislike 
and mistrust each other but somehow end up in the same meetings and events 
anyway.  Their chronic bickering and sniping ruin everything for everyone.  
They refuse to back off and stand down, so the community … does what?

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Thanks,
Philip Dowds
Cornerstone Cohousing
Cambridge, MA

> On Nov 12, 2024, at 9:16 PM, Muriel Kranowski <murielk [at] vt.edu> wrote:
> 
> I can think of at least 2 kinds of interpersonal conflict in coho
> communities. One is that members or subgroups of members just don't like
> each other and let that be observable, or one member is just irascible and
> unpleasant to everyone. Another is that member A believes that member B is
> flouting community rules or norms and is ticked off about it. We've tried
> to address the 2nd kind of conflict in a formal way.