Re: Privacy for Introverts
From: Richart Keller (richart.kellergmail.com)
Date: Wed, 30 Sep 2015 10:13:59 -0700 (PDT)
Some folks have a shade on the window in their front door.  If its down, it
means that they don't want company.  Or maybe a do not disturb tag on the
front door knob...

Rick Keller
Pioneer Valley Cohousing
401 486-2677



On Wed, Sep 30, 2015 at 12:42 PM, Elizabeth Magill <pastorlizm [at] gmail.com>
wrote:

>
> This is a  huge problem for me. Our porches were available for nearly a
> year before the common house had its occupancy permit (long story), so they
> have developed into a major socializing place. I *love* that.
>
> *And* it means that being on the porch appears to mean you want visitors.
> *And* I personally have no ability to say no to neighbors. So my neighbor
> comes up, says "want visitors" and I always say yes. Even when I am
> supposedly writing my thesis or an article, or doing work. I even sometimes
> say "I'm working but I can take a break".
>
> Mama mia!
>
> I finally sent a note to my neighbors explaining that if I am in the back
> yard, please do not ask me if I'm free--assume I am not. I hope to build a
> deck and dream that I will then start getting work done.
>
> Also there is the common house question: when my "sit silently and write"
> group meets during the day we usually have at least one child come in to
> chat. That is, one child not related to any of us. Cohousing has taught me
> (somewhat, see above) to be able to draw better boundaries. "We can't be
> interrupted anne, sorry". But when we meet in the evenings there are lots
> of interruptions.
>
> Love to hear if other communities have a way to deal with that.
>
> I like the hat suggestion, I might try it. Sometimes I don't go out to our
> labyrinth because I'll have to pass all the people on the way.
>
> -Liz
> (The Rev.) Elizabeth M. Magill
> www.mosaic-commons.org
> Berlin, MA
> 508-450-0431
>
>
>
>
> On Sep 29, 2015, at 8:03 AM, Marilyn Seiler <marilynseiler72 [at] gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> >
> > How does your community address the outside-the-home privacy needs for
> the introverts of your cohousing community? Is privacy primarily INSIDE the
> home or are adaptations such as privacy fences allowed and used?  What
> other measures or means are you using to promote a sense of privacy for
> those who have high privacy needs?  Thank you.
> >
> > Marilyn Seiler
>
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